Young Black Males and The Ivy League: The power of being raised by TWO PARENTS.
In Long Island, NY, seemingly worlds away from the mean streets of the five boroughs of New York City, two young Black males have done something relatively extraordinary. One year apart from each other, they have both applied to, and been accepted to ALL EIGHT of the “Ivy League” schools.
Anyone who knows me, and has listened to me on a regular basis, knows my feelings about how dangerous it is to expose your children to the pure wickedness and depravity of the Leftist/Regressive/Socialist “Intelligentsia” that dominates the faculties of most colleges and universities in America. And in my opinion, that goes doubly so, when it comes to the “Ivy League” schools. However, for arguments sake, since the “Ivy League” schools are generally regarded to be the centers of excellence for “education”, we will leave that alone, and address something that is otherwise, a very powerful and inspiring story. This story deals with the power and importance of parenting in a traditional, nuclear family, made up of ONE MAN, and ONE WOMAN, and what can be accomplished, regardless of ethnicity, or economic background.
Kwasi Enin, the son of Ebenezer and Doreen Enin (both Registered Nurses, and immigrants from Ghana), graduated with honors from William Floyd High School in Mastic Beach, NY with the class of 2014. Besides graduating with Straight-A’s, he managed to score a 2,250 (out-of-2,400) on his SAT exam.
It’s recently been announced that 18-year old Harold Ekeh, the son of Paul and Roseline Ekeh, will graudate with honors from Elmont Memorial High School in Long Island, with the class of 2015. He also is graduating with Straight-A’s, and had a score of 2,270 on his SAT exam. Both of his parents are immigrants from Nigeria who both used to work as clerks at Target. Today, Mr. Ekeh works for NYPD’s traffic division, and his wife works for a human resources agency in Queens.
When you read the stories of both these two extraordinary young men, you can’t help but to notice that they are both the products of two parent households, and that they are both either immigrants, or first generation Americans. Kwasi and his younger sister were born here in America, and Harold came with his parents and three younger brothers (a 4th was born later) when he was 8 years old. In both cases, the parents set the standards high, and instilled a belief in their sons that there are no limits to what they can accomplish, and that the ‘American Dream’ was theirs for the taking.
The thing that comes to my mind is that both sets of parents, Mr. & Mrs. Enin, and Mr. & Mrs. Ekeh, each “followed the recipe for success”, and lo and behold…just like following the directions in Betty Crocker’s Cookbook, their children came out just like the picture on the front of the box. I mean, I know that children do not come with an owners manual, and raising kids is not as easy as baking a cake, but the principles are similar.
I am not certain of the spiritual beliefs of either Mr. & Mrs. Enin, or Mr. & Mrs. Ekeh, but Proverbs 22:6 (NKJV) says, “Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.” And from a statement young Kwasi Enin made, concerning his parents being “Helicopter Parents”, it seems that they also understood what Proverbs 29:15 (NKJV) meant when it said, “The rod and rebuke give wisdom, But a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.” so they didn’t want to give their son any chance to bring shame to them, or to himself.
Because it has been such a relative rarity over the past two generations, far too many people, Black folks in particular, are totally unaware of the fact that, Black families haven’t always been this fractured and dysfunctional. As THAT DUDE, Walter E. Williams frequently says, “Even in the antebellum era, when slaves often weren’t permitted to wed, most black children lived with a biological mother and father. During Reconstruction and up until the 1940s, 75% to 85% of black children lived in two-parent families. Today, more than 70% of black children are born to single women. The welfare state has done to black Americans what slavery couldn’t do, what Jim Crow couldn’t do, what the harshest racism couldn’t do, and that is to destroy the black family.”
I think it’s hugely important for more American families in general, and Black families in particular to know and be reminded of exactly what can happen, when A MAN and AM WOMAN consciously and deliberately choose to get married, and raise a family together. These are the kinds of stories that need to shared, far and wide.
Just as a final note, prior to May 6, 1954, never in the recorded history of mankind, had a human being ran one mile, in 4 minutes or less. But after Roger Bannister did it, running a mile in 3:59.4 minutes, and it was proven it could be done, THOUSANDS of other men have done it. Beyond that, the world record has been lowered to 3:43.13, because now, people know IT’S POSSIBLE!! Not only is it possible, a 4-minute mile is now THE STANDARD for all professional “middle-distance” runners. Maybe I’m weird, for thinking this way, but just imagine…what if Blacks in general decided to use the Enin and Ekeh families as THE STANDARD for what can be accomplished? How much better off would the Black community in general be? After all, if the Black community grows more solid, stable, and prosperous, America as a whole will also. Just think about it.